How do I get medical help for a parent who refuses to go to the doctor?

First, the reframe that makes everything else work: an adult with decision-making capacity has the right to refuse care, so the goal is persuasion, not force - and force backfires. The practical starting move is figuring out what the refusal is actually about. Fear of bad news, a past bad experience, cost, transport hassle, hearing problems that make appointments humiliating, or depression all look identical from the outside - "won't go" - but each has a different fix. Then lower the friction. Telehealth is the ace here: a video visit from the kitchen table skips the drive, the waiting room, and half the dread. Frame it small - "one conversation, at home, you can hang up anytime." Tie it to what your parent values: staying independent, keeping the garden, seeing the grandkids. NIA's caregiver guidance on taking someone to an appointment applies even when the someone is reluctant: prepare together, let them lead the conversation, and respect their wishes. Useful backstops: ask their pharmacist or a trusted clinician to raise the concern, since authority figures they already know carry weight. And if memory or judgment problems are part of the picture, get the cognition checked - that changes the conversation from preference to safety. Pymander is a free AI doctor, 24/7 by text. Sometimes a private, pressure-free question session is the first step a reluctant parent will actually take.