A medical power of attorney names your medical decision-maker for when you cannot decide - free, no lawyer needed in most states, and impossible to create after capacity is lost.
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What is a medical power of attorney?
A medical power of attorney - also called a healthcare proxy or durable power of attorney for healthcare - is a legal document naming the person you choose to make medical decisions for you if you cannot make them yourself: unconscious, delirious, too ill, or under anesthesia. NIA's advance care planning guidance emphasizes the core points: you choose the person while you have capacity - it cannot be created after you lose it; the agent speaks only when you cannot speak for yourself; and without one, states fall back on default family hierarchies that may not match your wishes - or worse, courts. Choosing the agent: the right person is not automatically the spouse or the eldest child - it is whoever can hold your wishes under pressure, communicate with doctors calmly, and live nearby enough to act. Name an alternate. Then have the actual conversation: the document without the talk leaves your agent guessing at your values in a hallway at 2am. The paperwork: forms are free from your state, often need only witnesses or a notary, and require no lawyer in most states. It pairs with the living will - your specific treatment wishes - and together they form an advance directive. Copies go to the agent, the family, and the medical record. Review after big life changes. For aging parents: the window is capacity - the time to do this paperwork is while it still feels unnecessary. Pymander is a free AI doctor, 24/7 by text. Ask about the documents, and it can help you plan the conversation with your parent.