How do I support a friend who is suicidal?
Last updated September 3, 2026.
Ask directly - "Are you thinking about killing yourself?" - because direct asking does not plant the idea, it opens the door. Then listen without fixing, help put distance between them and anything lethal, and connect them to 988 together - staying on the bridge afterward, because the weeks after a crisis are high-risk. Know NIMH's warning signs: talking about death or being a burden, withdrawing, giving things away, sudden calm after despair. A plan, means, or a goodbye means 988 or an ER now.
What to do
- Ask the direct question. It opens doors; it does not plant ideas.
- Listen without fixing. Serious, present, and no minimizing.
- Secure the means. Medications and weapons moved out of reach while the crisis passes.
- Bridge and follow through. 988 together, then keep showing up for weeks.
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